My Neurodivergent Life

This week gabby and I dig into Rumination.  You know, when you can’t stop thinking about that embarrassing moment from years ago, or even something that happened to you that was never in your control in the first place that you can’t seem to stop thinking about.  Sometimes even that song that gets stuck in your head, oh and by the way, I have a secret trick to getting rid of ear worms that works pretty well. 

Have you heard of the practice of bed rotting?  It’s a term that has started to pop up.  And as much as rotting may conjure up negative connotations, it’s actually a form of self care.  With our digitally connected world, where we can be productive anywhere, why can’t that place have a pillow?  Today we explore the reasons, the positives and the possible challenges that is bed rotting. 

Today on the My Neurodivergent life podcast, Gabby Nistico and I are diving into negative feedback, constructive criticism, and how us Neurodivergent folks handle receiving it, and how we can better give this feedback.  How can we avoid being just plain argumentative, or defensive.  Is it possible to create a mindset in the workplace that diffuses anxiety and still work on problems?  What does the neurodivergent meatball need in order to listen, hear and reflect in a manner that is helpful for the whole team?

HOHOHO electric meatballs, welcome back to the My Neurodivergent life podcast.  I’m Rick MacIvor and I’m once again joined by the effervescent Gabby Nistico.  This time of year, being neurodivergent can be extra stressful.  Gabby knows this all too well.  How do you deal with all the traffic, the break in the routine, other people being extra chatty, the energy of the holiday spirit alone can use up all your spoons for the day.  Feel the same?  Let’s talk about it.

Gabby and I are almost finished with the wish list, these are the final two items.  The adhd joke that you hear over and over is “squirrel!”  Ha, ha yes sometimes that can happen.  But really, it’s really about not being able to do the thing.  Even if I really want to do the thing, I can’t seem to get it done. Getting over that is a challenge and there is one trick that I use that seems to help.  And lastly, a pat on the back goes a long way.  Just an acknowledgment of effort, just a simple positive word of encouragement and I’m in. What ever it is, I’m on board.

Today Gabby Nistico and I continue talking about the items on my wish list.  First up is Don’t hover, both physically and psychologically. Then, my personal favorite Brain pudding.  I’ll just let that sit there and I’ll explain it later. And lastly, Multitasking is bull poop. for several reasons that we dive deep into. 

We continue our conversation about the neurodivergent wish list. These are things I wish people knew about being neurodivergent, it’s not personal, it’s just my Ferrari brain has bicycle brakes. Next on the list is the problem of too many notifications, and then we talk about deadlines. And bonus, we talk about the three words I have on my wall behind me.  It says “make people happy”.  And spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with people pleasing. 

I have a wish list.  It’s a wish list to all the neurotypical people in my life.  It’s the things that I wish NT people understood about my neurodivergent life.  These are the top 10 things, and today we cover the top two.  1 - Even though it may seem like I’m not listening, I am listening.  And 2 - Please, don’t move my stuff.  Gabby and I really uncover what’s at the root of these things and how to communicate that with the Neurotypical people in our lives.